This book doesn’t teach you how to be likeable, rather it explores the idea of “likability” and how “being likeable” has translated into a tenet of our corporate culture.
Be nice, but not too nice. Be successful, but not too successful. Just be likeable. Whatever that means?
This book explores likability as a proxy for unconscious bias and gender discrimination. It also offers constructive ways for women to reframe so-called feedback from others that focuses solely on style or presentation, and ways to change your mindset from one of likability to that of relatability. The bottom line: It calls for women to be confident, advocate for themselves, challenge stereotypes and bias, and not be afraid to walk away when their personal, ethical, or moral code is undermined.
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Yes, there’s no real research in this book, but it still has a lot of good takeaways and great conversation starters. This is a book to ease into difficult conversations with, and a good balance between the super vulnerable works of Brené Brown and the traditional canon a la How to Win Friends and Influence People.
“Rather than advising readers to make themselves likeable, Menendez empowers them to examine how they perceive themselves and others”The Book Guide® Editor
Rather than advising readers to make themselves likeable, Menendez empowers them to examine how they perceive themselves and others and breaks down how the subjective nature of likability is riddled with cultural biases and how our demands for it hinder everyone’s progress and power.
Written from the perspective of a minority female Millennial, The Likability Trap proposes surprising, actionable solutions for moving through these cultural patterns holding us back. Ultimately inspiring us to value unique talents and styles instead of muting them, and to remember that even when we are held back for appearing unlikeable, we aren’t broken by it.
The Likeability Trap (2019) By: Alicia MenendezThe Likeability Trap (2019) By: Alicia Menendez
by The Book Guide® Editors4.4/5 Very good